Be happy, not perfect.

I don’t know who needs to hear this, today or always, but there is absolutely no need for perfection.

First of all, perfection is an illusion you create in your mind. Your idea of what perfect is, is definitely not mine. It is a construct we create in our head to showcase ourselves in society and in our minds’ a certain way. We all have that friend who always looks like he/she walked out of the salon and vogue magazine every day. The friend whose house always looks like the house cleaner just left. The friend whose car never has old receipts, empty seltzers and half eaten protein bars on the ground. The friend who makes life seem effortless. We all know and love them. But let’s face it folks, that’s not the majority of us.  

I’ve been the girl who, what I like to call, “Martha Stewarts” all day. I’ve tried to have the cleanest home, the best dinner parties, the kickass career, the organized life and I realized that although it did make me feel good to have a clean home to come home to, the part of my soul that it was feeding was my need to be recognized as one of those perfect people. I was the woman who could do it all and y’all better recognize. And then my “perfect” life fell to shit (excuse my language). Thank freakin’ the heavens above that it did.

I was chewed up and spit out by the universe, and during it, I was a hot mess. Now I am the most grateful human for that difficult process. I lost my home, the supposed love of my life, my dog, my perfect little life. And today my idea of perfection is if I remember to put the laundry in the dryer. Or I remember to get more toothpaste while I’m out. Or my friends come over and I have a half-eaten package of Boursin cheese and half a bottle of wine to offer them. My priority of perfection has massively shifted. And I couldn’t be happier about it. I no longer pressure myself to do anything that isn’t serving me- just me!

I mean yes, am I going to that holiday party when I’d rather stay home in pajamas and drink wine while watching Netflix and snuggling my dog. Yes, I am attending. Do I realize that is not for me? Duh. But we are grown ups and we have to show up to be a good citizen within our tribes. That is not up for debate. You show up for the people you love. But if my dress isn’t steamed now, I’m ok with that.

So here we are. Christmas is next week. We are all under a lot of stress and pressure from our kids, our families, our friends, our busy schedules, our traveling, 95 traffic, social media- freakin’ all of it. It’s a lot, I understand. But here’s what I’m saying today: no one needs or wants you to do it all and do it perfectly. No one. That is in your head. Every single person reading this should be grateful to have family, friends, a home (messy or clean, doesn’t matter) and people who love and care for them. Perfection should not be what we strive for this holiday season, or ever, for that matter. So if you’re one of those people who is scrambling to have everything perfectly put together- stop it. Right now. The world wants you to be at peace and happy, not pressured by perfection.

On that note, know that you are "perfect" just the way you are. And I, and the Maikana team wish you the most merry and healthy holiday season. We are beyond grateful for your support and love.

Happy holidays from our Maikana family to yours!
Jamiesonxo