It's "NO"vember!

I saw a meme the other day that said "It's 'NO'vember. A time to start saying 'no' to people, places and things that drain your energy." Hell yeah! I am actively participating in NOvember from this month onwards. 

I am not sure at what age you start realizing your actual worth and space in this world and begin acting on it but for anyone who is not there yet, I hear ya. I'm 37 and still struggle to set boundaries, voice my needs, say no to things I don't want to do, not help people when it causes me more stress, stay in my lane, etc.  So to read this meme and almost have an excuse as to why I am saying NO is a little empowering. So right now I am saying NO to whatever or whoever is not feeding my soul and building me up. 

This past week has been a freakin' doozy. If I even began to type out all the crap I've had to deal with, you'd never believe it. I barely can. I've had to deal with sad personal loss, angry terrible humans, self-absorbed jerks, superiority complex freakshows, insecure control freaks and way more than I care to give energy to right now. My question to the universe this week has not been why me but what am I doing to attract such negative behavior to surround me?

So this kicks off the shedding of many unnecessary and non-fulfilling layers in my life. If you are feeling the same way- defeated by the world around you- take a look at what you can cleanse from your life. What people you can move away from, what situations you can stay away from, etc. Just saying "eff you" to a few things this week has made my shoulders drop and my energy increase. It is invaluable to look at what in your life is serving you and what is blocking you from your intended future. Take an honest stock of your life and get rid of the people and situations that are not allowing the light to flow around you. 

What I will struggle the most with during NOvember is saying no to people I care about but cannot give more of myself. I have spoken about my people pleasing in the past and I have to learn that the people who love and care for me will understand if I cannot always be available. I will usually bend over backwards to make things work for others but in hindsight, it isn't working for me. Your tribe will understand your 'no' and not need reasons why. 

So let's make it a goal this month (and hopefully carry it forward) to surround ourselves with people, places and situations that only fill our cups. Let's make a promise to ourselves that we will stop making excuses for others' lousy behavior and just say NO! Let's shed the negativity in our lives and make room for the flowers to bloom. 

Ciao,
Jamiesonxo